ECCLESIASTES 4:9-12: “TWO ARE BETTER THAN ONE,
BECAUSE THEY HAVE A GOOD RETURN FOR THEIR WORK THE INVESTMENT THEY PUT INTO THEIR RELATIONSHIP:
IF ONE FALLS DOWN, HIS FRIEND CAN HELP HIM UP. BUT PITY THE MAN WHO FALLS AND HAS NO ONE TO HELP HIM UP!
ALSO, IF TWO LIE DOWN TOGETHER, THEY WILL KEEP WARM. BUT HOW CAN ONE KEEP WARM ALONE?
THOUGH ONE MAY BE OVERPOWERED, TWO CAN DEFEND THEMSELVES.
A CORD OF THREE STRANDS IS NOT QUICKLY BROKEN.”
“TWO ARE BETTER THAN ONE” THAT IS IF THEY ARE UNITED.
THIS PICTURE OF MARRIAGE IS OF TWO INTERTWINED STRANDS OF ROPE, EACH WITH THEIR OWN INDIVIDUALITY AND LIMITATIONS,
BUT THEY ARE BETTER WHEN JOINED AND WORKING TOGETHER.
IF THEY PULL IN OPPOSITE DIRECTIONS THERE WILL BE PROBLEMS
HOWEVER, IF THEY WRAP THEMSELVES AROUND EACH OTHER , THROUGH THEIR UNION THEY FORM SOMETHING STRONGER THAN JUST TWO INDIVIDUAL STRANDS
FOR THEY GIVE STRENGTH TO EACH OTHER THROUGH THEIR UNION.
THUS HUSBAND AND WIFE ARE TO WRAP THEMSELVES AROUND EACH OTHER, EMOTIONALLY PHYSICALLY AND FINANCIALLY , GIVING LOVE AND SUPPORT TO EACH OTHER
“THEREFORE SHALL A MAN LEAVE HIS FATHER AND HIS MOTHER, AND SHALL CLEAVE (BE UNITED) UNTO HIS WIFE: AND THEY SHALL BE ONE FLESH” GENESIS 2:24.
THAT WHICH BINDS THE STRANDS IS LOVE –
ANOTHER GREAT KEY TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE IS LOVE NOT JUST THE EMOTIONAL HUMAN LOVE THAT IS JUST BASED ON FEELINGS
BUT THE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE OF GOD THAT IS SUPERNATURAL
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
1Co:13:2: And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.
1Co:13:3: And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
1Co:13:4: Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
1Co:13:5: Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
1Co:13:6: Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
1Co:13:7: Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
1Co:13:8: Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
1Co:13:9: For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
1Co:13:10: But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.
1Co:13:11: When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
1Co:13:12: For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
1Co:13:13: And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.
GOD IS LOVE AND IF YOU SAY YOU KNOW HIM AND CANNOT LOVE OTHERS UNCONDITIONALLY YOU ARE A BIG LIAR
1 JOHN 2 :”4-18
1Jo:2:4: He that saith, I know him, and keepeth not his commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him.
1Jo:2:5: But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in him.
1Jo:2:6: He that saith he abideth in him ought himself also so to walk, even as he walked.
1Jo:2:7: Brethren, I write no new commandment unto you, but an old commandment which ye had from the beginning. The old commandment is the word which ye have heard from the beginning.
1Jo:2:8: Again, a new commandment I write unto you, which thing is true in him and in you: because the darkness is past, and the true light now shineth.
1Jo:2:9: He that saith he is in the light, and hateth his brother, is in darkness even until now.
1Jo:2:10: He that loveth his brother abideth in the light, and there is none occasion of stumbling in him.
1Jo:2:11: But he that hateth his brother is in darkness, and walketh in darkness, and knoweth not whither he goeth, because that darkness hath blinded his eyes.
1Jo:2:12: I write unto you, little children, because your sins are forgiven you for his name’s sake.
1Jo:2:13: I write unto you, fathers, because ye have known him that is from the beginning. I write unto you, young men, because ye have overcome the wicked one. I write unto you, little children, because ye have known the Father.
1Jo:2:14: I have written unto you, fathers, because ye have known him that is from the beginning. I have written unto you, young men, because ye are strong, and the word of God abideth in you, and ye have overcome the wicked one.
1Jo:2:15: Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him.
1Jo:2:16: For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.
1Jo:2:17: And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.
1Jo:2:18: Little children, it is the last time: and as ye have heard that antichrist shall come, even now are there many antichrists; whereby we know that it is the last time.
THIS KIND OF SUPERNATURAL LOVE CAN ONLY BE SHED ABROAD IN OUR HEARTS BY THE HOLY SPIRIT
HE IS OUR TEACHER, OUR GUIDE AND OUR HELPER
THE TYPES OF PROBLEMS AND PAIN THAT WE EXPERIENCE IN MARRIAGE HAVE ONE PURPOSE ONLY WHICH IS TO RIPEN AND DEVELOP US IN THE KNOWLEDGE AND THE SUPERNATUARL LOVE OF CHRIST
Therefore being justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ:
Ro:5:2: By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.
Ro:5:3: And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience;
Ro:5:4: And patience, experience; and experience, hope:
Ro:5:5: And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.
Ro:5:6: For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly.
Ro:5:7: For scarcely for a righteous man will one die: yet peradventure for a good man some would even dare to die.
Ro:5:8: But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.,
CHRIST DIED FOR US WHEN WE WERE YET SINNERS.WHEN THERE WAS NO SIGN THAT WE WOULD EVERGIVE OUR HEARTS TO HIM
HE DIED FOR US BY FAITH AND ROSE FOR US BECAUSE HE LOVED US
If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done
Joh:15:8: Herein is my Father glorified, that ye bear much fruit; so shall ye be my disciples.
Joh:15:9: As the Father hath loved me, so have I loved you: continue ye in my love.
Joh:15:10: If ye keep my commandments, ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father’s commandments, and abide in his love.
Joh:15:11: These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full.
Joh:15:12: This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.
Joh:15:13: Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.
WE MUST LEARN HIS CHARACTER AND LEARN TO LOVE JUST LIKE HIM NO MORE NO LESS
MARRIAGE IS NEVER ABOUT PRIDE,SELFISHNESS AND SELF-CENTREDNESS
CHRIST NEVER DEFENDED HIMSELF NOR FOUGHT BACK
1 PETER 2:17-25
Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king.
1Pe:2:18: Servants, be subject to your masters with all fear; not only to the good and gentle, but also to the froward.
1Pe:2:19: For this is thankworthy, if a man for conscience toward God endure grief, suffering wrongfully.
1Pe:2:20: For what glory is it, if, when ye be buffeted for your faults, ye shall take it patiently? but if, when ye do well, and suffer for it, ye take it patiently, this is acceptable with God.
1Pe:2:21: For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps:
1Pe:2:22: Who did no sin, neither was guile found in his mouth:
1Pe:2:23: Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously:
1Pe:2:24: Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed.
1Pe:2:25: For ye were as sheep going astray; but are now returned unto the Shepherd and Bishop of your souls.
HE WAS HUMBLE AND COMPLETELY AND WILLINGLY LAID DOWN HIS LIS LIFE FOR US ALL EVEN WHEN WE DID NOT DESERVE IT
HE PRAYED WITHOUT CEASING
HE FORGAVE ALL HIS PERSECUTORS
HE DID NOT SEEK REVENGE NOR SEEK TO PROOF ANYTHING TO ANYBODY
HE PRAYED FOR HIS ENEMIES AND DID THEM GOOD
MY BROTHERS AND SISTERS,DEAR MR AND MRS, GOD IS LOVE.
THE GREATEST COMMANDMENT GIVEN TO US BY GOD IS TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER
I JOHN 3:9-24
1Jo:3:9: Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God.
1Jo:3:10: In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil: whosoever doeth not righteousness is not of God, neither he that loveth not his brother.
1Jo:3:11: For this is the message that ye heard from the beginning, that we should love one another.
1Jo:3:12: Not as Cain, who was of that wicked one, and slew his brother. And wherefore slew he him? Because his own works were evil, and his brother’s righteous.
1Jo:3:13: Marvel not, my brethren, if the world hate you.
1Jo:3:14: We know that we have passed from death unto life, because we love the brethren. He that loveth not his brother abideth in death.
1Jo:3:15: Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him.
1Jo:3:16: Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.
1Jo:3:17: But whoso hath this world’s good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him?
1Jo:3:18: My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.
1Jo:3:19: And hereby we know that we are of the truth, and shall assure our hearts before him.
1Jo:3:20: For if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things.
1Jo:3:21: Beloved, if our heart condemn us not, then have we confidence toward God.
1Jo:3:22: And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.
1Jo:3:23: And this is his commandment, That we should believe on the name of his Son Jesus Christ, and love one another, as he gave us commandment.
1Jo:3:24: And he that keepeth his commandments dwelleth in him, and he in him. And hereby we know that he abideth in us, by the Spirit which he hath given us.
THE UNCONDITIONAL COVENANT LOVE, THAT MARRIED COUPLES VOW TO GIVE EACH OTHER, IS WHAT MAKES MARRIAGE STRONGER THAN ALL OTHER RELATIONSHIPS.
BY THEIR VOWS EACH PROMISES TO LAY THEIR OWN LIFE DOWN FOR THE OTHER,
IT IS AN ABSOLUTE COMMITMENT TO LOVE THE OTHER PERSON, INDEPENDANT OF THEIR PERFORMANCE.
APART FROM THEIR COVENANT VOWS, THE BASIS NOW FOR HOW THEY RELATE IS NOT HOW LOVING THE OTHER PERSON IS, BUT CHRIST ‘S CHARACTER AND VALUES IN EACH PERSON
THEY MUST BE COMMITTED TO LOVE GOD AND TO LOVE EACH OTHER WHATEVER HAPPENS.
LOVE IS NOT JUST GIVEN BECAUSE THE OTHER HAS GIVEN FIRST, BUT BECAUSE OF MATURITY IN CHRIST
Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:
Eph:4:14: That we henceforth be no more children, tossed to and fro, and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the sleight of men, and cunning craftiness, whereby they lie in wait to deceive;
Eph:4:15: But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ:
Eph:4:16: From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love.
Eph:4:17: This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind,
Eph:4:18: Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart:
Eph:4:19: Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto lasciviousness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.
Eph:4:20: But ye have not so learned Christ;
Eph:4:21: If so be that ye have heard him, and have been taught by him, as the truth is in Jesus:
Eph:4:22: That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts;
Eph:4:23: And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;
Eph:4:24: And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.
Eph:4:25: Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.
Eph:4:26: Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
Eph:4:27: Neither give place to the devil.
Eph:4:28: Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth.
Eph:4:29: Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
Eph:4:30: And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
Eph:4:31: Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
Eph:4:32: And be ye kind one to another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
LOVE IS NOT JUST GIVEN BECAUSE THE OTHER HAS GIVEN FIRST, BUT BECAUSE OF THE COVENANT VOWS THEY HAVE FREELY MADE IN GOD’S PRESENCE AND IN THE PRESENCE OF HIS PEOPLE THE CHURCH
Keep thy foot when thou goest to the house of God, and be more ready to hear, than to give the sacrifice of fools: for they consider not that they do evil.
Ec:5:2: Be not rash with thy mouth, and let not thine heart be hasty to utter any thing before God: for God is in heaven, and thou upon earth: therefore let thy words be few.
Ec:5:3: For a dream cometh through the multitude of business; and a fool’s voice is known by multitude of words.
Ec:5:4: When thou vowest a vow unto God, defer not to pay it; for he hath no pleasure in fools: pay that which thou hast vowed.
Ec:5:5: Better is it that thou shouldest not vow, than that thou shouldest vow and not pay.
Ec:5:6: Suffer not thy mouth to cause thy flesh to sin; neither say thou before the angel, that it was an error: wherefore should God be angry at thy voice, and destroy the work of thine hands?
Ec:5:7: For in the multitude of dreams and many words there are also divers vanities: but fear thou God.
Ec:5:8: If thou seest the oppression of the poor, and violent perverting of judgment and justice in a province, marvel not at the matter: for he that is higher than the highest regardeth; and there be higher than they.
MARRIED COUPLES MUST LOVE EACH OTHER BECAUSE THE COVENANT REQUIRES IT, NOT BECAUSE THE OTHER DESERVES IT.
PERFECT LOVE GIVES FREELY WITHOUT STRINGS, GIVING ITSELF CONTINUALLY, BUT NOT DEMANDING ANYTHING IN RETURN.
IT GUARANTEES THAT THE FEELINGS STAY ALIVE AND PROTECTS THE RELATIONSHIP FROM A DOWNWARD SPIRAL OF EACH WITHDRAWING LOVE IN REVENGE AGAINST THE OTHER BECAUSE OF SELFISHNESS AND PRIDE
INSTEAD OF PUNISHING AND IGNORING EACH OTHER,THEY MUST INSPIRE ONE ANOTHER TO GREATER THINGS BY THEIR LOVE.
THIS KIND OF LOVE IS MORE INTERESTED IN WHAT I CAN GIVE THAN IN WHAT I CAN GET.
IF YOU THINK: “I’M GIVING MORE TO THIS RELATIONSHIP THAN HE/SHE IS” -THEN YOU ARE A GOOD FOLLOWER OF JESUS CHRIST OUR LORD AND MASTER.
THE ONLY COMPETION ALLOWED IN MARRIAGE SHOULD BE A COMPETION TO OUTGIVE THE OTHER IN CHRIST’S LOVE
Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
Ec:4:10: For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
Ec:4:11: Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
Ec:4:12: And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
“TWO ARE BETTER THAN ONE, BECAUSE THEY HAVE A GOOD RETURN FOR THEIR WORK
THIS IS NOT SPEAKING OF YOUR WORK TO EARN MONEY, BUT THE WORK OF LOVE AND SUPPORT FOR EACH OTHER THAT YOU PUT INTO THE RELATIONSHIP.
YES, YOU HAVE TO WORK AT THE MARRIAGE, TO KEEP THE HARMONY, AND MAKE MANY COMPROMISES,
BUT YOUR WORK WILL PAY OFF FOR WHATEVER YOU PUT INTO IT, YOU WILL GET A GOOD RETURN.
IT WILL BE A GOOD INVESTMENT.LOVE ALWAYS BEGETS LOVE
LET US LOOK AT THE RETURNS
RETURN NUMBER 1 (V10). SAYS “IF ONE FALLS DOWN, HIS FRIEND CAN HELP HIM UP. BUT PITY THE MAN WHO FALLS AND HAS NO ONE TO HELP HIM UP!”
IN BAD TIMES THE OTHER IS THERE TO HELP YOU.
OTHERS MAY KICK YOU WHEN YOU ARE DOWN OR FALL INTO SIN OR DISCOURAGEMENT, BUT YOUR PARTNER SHOULD PRAYERFULLY RESTORE YOU IN LOVE
HE OR SHE MUST LIFT YOU UP IN A SPIRIT OF GENTLENESS (GAL 6:1).
LOVE IS ACCEPTING AND FORGIVING KNOWING HOW MUCH WE OURSELVES ALWAYS NEED FORGIVENESS AND HELP.
LOVE KNOWS THAT THE BELOVED IS NOT PERFECT AND WILL MAKE MISTAKES.
IT ACCEPTS THE BELOVED AS HE OR SHE IS, AND IS PATIENT AND KIND, GIVING HIM OR HER TIME TO CHANGE.
LOVE DOES NOT KEEP A LIST OF FAULTS AND FAILURES, BOTH PARTIES BRING STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES TO THE RELATIONSHIP.
IN FACT, THE VERY NATURE OF MARRIAGE IS THAT TWO VERY DIFFERENT PEOPLE ARE JOINED TOGETHER AS ONE
THIS IS A GREAT MIRACLE
SO THAT EACH ONE GIVES OF THEIR STRENGTHS TO FILL THE OTHERS’ WEAKNESSESES.
THE RESPONSE TO THEIR WEAKNESS IS TO OFFER YOUR STRENGTH TO FILL THAT GAP.
THIS IS HOW IT SHOULD BE FOR NO-ONE IS COMPLETE IN THEMSELVES.
IT IS IN THE FULFILLING OF EACH OTHER’S NEEDS AND THE COMPLETING OF EACH OTHER THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS STRENGTHENED
IF YOUR MATE HAD NO WEAKNESS HE OR SHE WOULD NOT NEED YOU AND THEN THE RELATIONSHIP WOULD BE WEAK AND UNPROGRESSIVE
IF YOU WORK AT GIVING YOUR STRENGTH WHERE YOUR PARTNER IS WEAK, YOU WILL RECIEVE A GOOD RETURN FROM THEIR STRENGTH WHEREVER YOU ARE WEAK AS WELL RETURN NUMBER 2
” V11. “ALSO, IF TWO LIE DOWN TOGETHER, THEY WILL KEEP WARM. BUT HOW CAN ONE KEEP WARM ALONE
WE ARE TO GIVE WARMTH TO EACH OTHER, GIVING HUGS PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY AT ALL TIMES
THIS SPEAKS OF EMOTIONAL SUPPORT THAT WE NEED TO GIVE WHEN THE OTHER NEEDS IT.
IF WE GIVE IT THEN WHEN WE NEED IT THEY WILL BE DISPOSED TO ALSO GIVE IT TO US HEN WE NEED IT AS WELL THAT IS THE SECOND GOOD RETURN!
RETURN NUMBER 3
V12. “THOUGH ONE MAY BE OVERPOWERED, TWO CAN DEFEND THEMSELVES”
AS TWO STAND TOGETHER UNDER PRESSURE AND ATTACK, THEY ARE MUCH STRONGER.
AS WE OFFER OUR PROTECTION, STRENGTH, SUPPORT, HELP AND LOYALTY TO THE OTHER IN THEIR TIME OF NEED, STRESS AND PRESSURE,
SO WE WILL RECEIVE A GOOD RETURN WHEN WE ARE UNDER FIRE, FOR THEY WILL BE THERE FOR US TOO.
THE GREATEST KEY TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE IS IN THE FINAL MYSTERIOUS STATEMENT:
“A CORD OF 3 STRANDS IS NOT QUICKLY BROKEN.”
THIS IS SCIENTIFICALLY ACCURATE (3 INTERTWINED STRANDS, NO MORE, NO LESS, IS THE STRONGEST KIND OF ROPE).
TWO STRANDS ALONE ARE LIMITED, AND NOT STABLE FOR THEY CAN EASILY UNRAVEL UNDER PRESSURE, AND SLIDE OVER EACH OTHER WITH FRICTION,
BUT THE 3RD STAND FIXES THE OTHER TWO INTO PLACE AND ADDS ITS STRENGTH TO THEM,SO THAT THE THREE INTERTWINED STRANDS ARE BOUND FIRMLY TOGETHER.
SO, WHO IS THIS 3RD STRAND, WHO WILL MAKE ALL THE DIFFERENCE? IT IS GOD HIMSELF!
IN FACT HE HAS REVEALED HIS INNER NATURE AS BEING THREE PERSONS (FATHER, SON AND SPIRIT) INTERTWINED TOGETHER IN AS ONE BEING
BOUND TOGETHER IN UNITY IN PERFECT LOVE, JUST LIKE A ROPE OF THREE STRANDS.
THIS IS THE PICTURE OF THE TRINITY AND IN A GODLY MARRIAGE,
WITH GOD IN THE PICTURE WE COME THE CLOSEST TO FULFILLING HIS CALL TO BE THE IMAGE OF GOD.
MARRIAGE IS GOD’S IDEA:IT IS GOD’S WAY OF REFLECTING HIS PERFECT NATURE.
THIS IS STATED IN GENESIS 1:27: “GOD CREATED MAN IN HIS OWN IMAGE, IN THE IMAGE OF GOD CREATED HE HIM; MALE AND FEMALE CREATED HE THEM.”
TOGETHER MAN AND WOMAN MAKE UP A MORE COMPLETE IMAGE OF GOD , AS THE TWO ARE JOINED TOGETHER IN UNITY;
AND IF THEY ARE ALSO BOTH SPIRITUALLY JOINED TO GOD IN FAITH AND LOVE, THEN TOGETHER THEIR MARRIAGE FORMS AN IMAGE OF THE PERFECT AND UNBREAKABLE UNION OF OUR TRIUNE GOD.
THAT MARRIAGE WILL BE STRONG, STABLE AND FULL OF LOVE,JOY AND PEACE,PROGRESS AND PROPERITY.
THUS GOD’S PURPOSE IN MARRIAGE IS THAT IT SHOULD REFLECT THE GLORY OF THE TRIUNE GOD.
AS GOD IS 3 PERSONS IN ONE , YET IS SO UNITED IN LOVE AS TO BE ONE BEING, SO GOD MADE THE MAN AND WOMAN TO BE DISTINCT PERSONALITIES WHO MUST BE PERFECTLY UNITED IN LOVE,
THROUGH THEIR UNION OF LOVE THEY BECOME AS ONE IN LOVE, LOYALTY AND PURPOSE.
FULFILLING THIS PURPOSE THEY BECOME THE IMAGE OF GOD AND GLORIFY HIM IN THEIR UNION. IN CONCLUSION THE KIND OF LOVE NEEDED FOR A LASTING MARRIAGE IS A SELFLESS, SELF-GIVING, COMMITTED, LOVE, THAT PUTS THE OTHER FIRST. GOD IS LOVE (1JOHN 4:8).
GOD’S INFINITE UNSELFISH LOVE IS SHOWN IN THAT HE GAVE HIS SON TO US TO SAVE US WHEN WE ONLY DESERVED HIS JUDGEMENT (JOHN 3:16).
HE HAS LOVED US WITH AN EVERLASTING, UNCONDITIONAL LOVE (JEREMIAH 31:3).
THIS IS THE KIND OF LOVE THAT GOD HAS FOR US.
AND HE MAKES THIS KIND OF LOVE AVAILABLE TO US, SO THAT WE CAN LOVE LIKE HIM.
AS CHRISTIANS WE HAVE ALL THE MATERIAL WE NEED TO BUILD A STRONG MARRIAGE.
WE HAVE OUR LOVE FOR ONE OTHER ENHANCED BY GOD’S LOVE, THAT IS CONTINUALLY BEING POURED INTO OUR HEARTS BY THE HOLY SPIRIT (ROMANS 5:5).
THIS LOVE IS DEEPER THAN A FEELING – IT IS A COMMITMENT, A COVENANT COMMITMENT.
THIS KIND OF LOVE IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR US TO DEVELOP IN OUR OWN STRENGTH, BUT WHEN IT SEEMS HARD WE CAN TURN TO GOD –
GOD IS THE SOURCE OF ALL LOVE AND BY FAITH WE RECEIVE AN INFILLING OF HIS LOVE.
HE MAKES HIS LOVE AVAILABLE TO ALL.
NOW WE MUST AVAIL THEMSELVES OF HIS LOVE TO BUILD OUR LIVES TOGETHER.
THUS, FOR A TRULY SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE, WE ARE NOT JUST TO WRAP OURSELVES AROUND EACH OTHER
BUT AROUND THE LIVING GOD, WHOSE STRENGTH WILL FILL UP OUR WEAKNESS WHEN WE ARE WEARY.
HE SUPPLIES US WITH ALL THE LOVE WE NEED FOR OUR MARRIAGE, ESPECIALLY IN THE HARD TIMES.
IF WE STAY CLOSE TO HIM, WE WILL FORM A 3-STRANDED ROPE THAT CANNOT BE BROKEN: “HE GIVES STRENGTH TO THE WEARY AND INCREASES THE POWER OF THE WEAK. EVEN YOUTHS GROW TIRED AND WEARY, AND YOUNG MEN STUMBLE AND FALL; BUT THOSE WHO WAIT ON THE LORD WILL RENEW THEIR STRENGTH (AND LOVE). THEY WILL SOAR ON WINGS LIKE EAGLES; THEY WILL RUN AND NOT GROW WEARY, THEY WILL WALK AND NOT BE FAINT” (ISAIAH 40:29-31).
THOSE WHO WIND THEMSELVES AROUND GOD WILL ALWAYS RENEW THEIR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER IN CHRIST
LET US PRAY
FAITH IS NOT JUST BELIEVING IN A GOD OUT THERE SOMEWHERE,BUT IN A GOD WHO IS REAL AND HERE FOR US, IN WHOM WE TRUST AND WRAP OUR HEART AND PERSONALITY AROUND AT ALL TIMES
WHATEVER HARDSHIPS WE FACE, OUR MARRIAGE WILL BE A SUCCESS, IF WE TURN TO GOD IN THE GOOD AND BAD TIMES, ASKING FOR HIS HELP AND TO FILL US WITH HIS LOVE
THEN AND ONLY THE CAN WE RESPOND TO EACH OTHER CONSISTENTLY IN THE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE OF CHRIST.
WHEN WE MOVE IN THAT GOD-KIND OF LOVE, IT NEVER FAILS TO TURN OUR HOME SITUATION AROUND FOR GOOD.
FREEDOM FROM THE INORDINATE AFFECTIONS AND SOUL TIES
THANK THE LORD FOR HIS REDEMPTIVE POWER
PRAYERS OF CONFESSIONS OF SINS AND FORGIVENESS
I RELEASE MYSELF FROM ALL UNPROFITABLE FRIENDSHIP IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I COME AGAINST THE DARK POWERS WHO MANIPULATED MY FRIENDSHIP WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX IN JESUS NAME
(MENTION THE NAME OF THE PERSON) AND BREAK THEIR POWER OVER MY LIFE IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I BIND ALL DEMON AUTHORITIES WHO MOTIVATED AND CONTROLLED MY RELATIONSHIP WITH….( MENTION THE NAME OF THE PERSON)
BREAK THEIR AUTHORITY AND POWER OVER MY AFFECTIONS IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I COMMAND ALL EVIL REMOTE CONTROLLERS TO LOOSE THEIR HOLD UPON MY AFFECTIONS IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I RELEASE MYSELF FROM THE HOLD OF EVERY BEWITCHED RELATIONSHIP IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
BY THE BLOOD OF JESUS, I REMOVE MYSELF FROM ANY STRANGE AUTHORITY EVER EXERCISED OVER ME IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I REMOVE ALL EVIL SOUL TIES AND AFFECTIONS IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I COME AGAINST EVERY DESIRE AND EXPECTATION OF THE ENEMY TO ENGAGE ME IN ANY UNPROFITABLE RELATIONSHIP IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I BREAK EVERY UNPROFITABLE RELATIONSHIP IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I BREAK AND RENOUNCE EVIL SOUL TIES I HAVE HAD OR MAY HAVE HAD WITH
– SECRET SOCIETIES
– CLOSE FRIENDS
– SOCIAL ORGANISATIONS
– FAMILY MEMBERS
– PAST OR PRESENT FRIENDS
– RELIGIOUS LEADERS
– PREACHERS ETC IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I RENOUNCE ALL HIDDEN EVIL SOUL TIES IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I RENOUNCE, BREAK AND LOOSE MYSELF FROM ALL DEMONIC SUBJECTION TO ANY RELATIONSHIP IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I BREAK ALL EVIL SOUL TIES AND WASH THEM AWAY WITH THE BLOOD OF THE LORD JESUS CHRIST
I REMOVE MYSELF FROM ANY STRANGE AUTHORITY EXERCISED OVER ME IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I REMOVE ALL MIND CONTROL MANIPULATION BETWEEN ME AND ANY FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I CLAIM DELIVERANCE FROM ANY NEGATIVE AFFECTION TOWARDS ANYONE IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
LET EVIL AFFECTIONS TOWARDS ME BE WIPED OFF THE MIND OF (MENTION THE NAME OF THE PERSON) IN THE NAME OF JESUS
LORD JESUS, I GIVE YOU MY AFFECTIONS, EMOTIONS AND DESIRES AND I REQUEST THAT THEY MIGHT BE IN THE SUBMISSION TO THE HOLY SPIRIT IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I ASK THE LORD TO GRANT US ALL IN OUR HOME TO HAVE THE MIND OF CHRIST IN JESUS NAME
I SURRENDER MY TEMPER TO THE LORD AND ASK FOR THE GRACE TO WALK IN THE LOVE OF GOD IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I CANCEL EVERY SATANIC CURSE PRONOUNCED ON ME AND MY HOME BY MY PARENTS IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST.
YOU SPIRIT OF JEZEBEL, I COMMAND YOU TO RELEASE ME NOW IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
YOU SPIRIT OF JEZEBEL, YOU WILL NOT KILL THE PROPHET OF GOD INSIDE OF ME, IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I CAST DOWN EVERY EVIL IMAGINATION AGAINST ME, IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I BREAK ANY UNGODLY ASSOCIATION WITH THE SPIRIT OF THE WORLD, IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
O LORD, SET MY ENEMIES IN ARRAY AGAINST THEMSELVES, IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
THE KEY TO OPEN THE WAY UNTO MY BREAKTHROUGH PHYSICALLY AND SPIRITUALLY, LORD GIVE IT TO ME, IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I PULL DOWN THE ALTAR OF WITCHCRAFT AGAINST MY LIFE AND HOME , IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST
I THANK GOD FOR MAKING ME MORE THAN A CONQUEROR IN JESUS NAME
PRAISE THE LORD FOR ANSWERED PRAYERS
PRAYERS FOR SINGLES WANTING TO BE MARRIED
a. BE SURE IT IS BASED ON GENUINE LOVE AND AFFECTION
b. BE SURE IT IS GOD’S WILL FOR YOU TO HAVE THAT PARTICULAR PERSON
c. BE SURE YOU ARE READY FOR MARRIED LIFE
d. BE SURE OF YOUR SPIRITUAL STATUS – SPIRITUAL IMMATURITY KILLS MARRIAGE
e. SET YOURSELF FREE FROM EVIL INHERITANCE THROUGH DELIVERANCE MINISTRATION BEFORE MARRIAGE
8. FORGIVENESS IS THE POWER FOR SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
FATHER, THANK YOU FOR WHAT I AM ABLE TO DO FOR YOUR KINGDOM AS A SINGLE PERSON
LET YOUR KINGDOM COME AND LET YOUR WILL BE DONE CONCERNING ME IN THE NAME OF JESUS
I TEAR DOWN EVERY WALL OF PRIDE AND PREJUDICE THAT MAY SERVE AS A HINDRANCE TO MEETING THE RIGHT PERSON FOR ALL SINGLES PEOPLE IN JESUS NAME
OPEN THE EYES OF YOUR SINGLE CHILDREN OH LORD TO SEE THE QUALITIES IN THE PERSONS YOU ARE LEADING TO THEM IN JESUS NAME
FATHER THANK YOU FOR GIVING THEM WISDOM TO REJECT THE PROPOSAL COURTSHIPS AND ADVANCES THAT WILL NOT GLORIFY YOU IN JESUS NAME
EVERY CULTURAL HINDRANCES AND BARRIER BE REMOVED IN JESUS NAME
FATHER GRANT THEM BOLDNESS TO PUT THE WILL OF GOD ABOVE THAT OF THEIR PARENTS, FRIENDS AND ALL OTHER INFLUENCES IN JESUS NAME
FATHER LET THE LIFE OF EVERY CHILD OF GOD THAT IS STILL SINGLE , BE FILLED WITH FULFILLMENT EVEN BEFORE MEETING THE PERSONS OF GOD’S CHOISE FOR THEIR LIVES IN JESUS NAME
FATHER NO MATTER HOW LONG IT TAKES, LET THEM WAIT FOR YOUR COUNSEL AND NOT MARRY AN UNSAVED PERSON
FATHER PLEASE REVEAL THE PERSON YOU VE CHOSEN FOR ME IN JESUS NAME
EVERY HOLD OF INFATUATION OR FOOLISH LOVE AND LUST, BE BROKEN OUT OF MY LIFE IN JESUS NAME
FATHER HEAL ME OF ALL MY PAST DISAPPOINTMENTS IN JESUS NAME
PRAY THAT YOUR SPOUSE WILL BE BORN AGAIN CHRISTIAN
PRAY THAT YOUR MARITAL LIFE WILL GLORIFY GOD
THANK THE LORD IN ADVANCE FOR SENDING THE PERSON WHO WILL GIVE AND RECEIVE LOVE INTO YOUR LIFE
FATHER LET ME NOT FALL INTO WRONG HANDS IN JESUS NAME
FATHER LET THE PERSON YOU SEND INTO MY LIFE BE A CHANNEL FOR BUILDING QUALITY INTO MY LIFE IN JESUS NAME