- MEN AND WOMEN HAVE DIFFERENT NEEDS.
- THE WORD OF GOD CLEARLY TELLS YOU EVERYTHING YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT THE OPPOSITE SEX.
- GEN. 3 :17 FOR EXAMPLE, SAYS THAT BECAUSE ADAM FAILED TO OBEY GOD`S WORD THE GROUND WAS CURSED FOR HIS SAKE AND HIS LABOUR WOULD BE HARD.
- HENCE, A MAN`S ORIENTATION IS FOR SIGNIFICANCE. EVERY MAN WANTS TO MAKE IT IN LIFE.
- MEN ARE THEREFORE TASK ORIENTED AND MEASURE SUCCESS BY WHAT THEY DO.
- WHEREAS A WOMAN`S MAJOR CONCERN IS TO NURTURE AND MANAGE THE HOME AND THE CHILDREN.
- SHE TEACHES HER CHILDREN WISDOM AND WANTS TO ENCOURAGE HER HOUSEHOLD, BY ASSURING COMFORT AND LOVE. PROV. 31 :26-31
- A CHRISTIAN WOMAN`S PRIMARY CONCERN IS FOR HER AND HOUSEHOLD IS THE FEAR OF THE LORD.
- A MAN`S WAY OF NURTURING IS TO PROVIDE.HIS MAIN CONCERN IS MONEY.
- A MAN’S CONSTANT QUESTIONS ARE AM I MAKING ENOUGH TO KEEP MY FAMILY SECURE?
- AM I MEETING ALL MY FAMILY NEEDS?
- THE MONEY YOUR HUSBAND MAKES AND THE WAY HE PROVIDES FOR HIS FAMILY ARE HIS MAJOR CONCERN.
- HE MEASURES SUCCESS AND FAILURE OR PERHAPS LOVE AND HATRED BY HOW GOOD A PROVIDER HE MAY OR MAY NOT BE TO THOSE WHOM HE LOVES.
- HERE ARE SOME BASIC PRINCIPLES THAT YOU NEED TO DILIGENTLY APPLY AS A WOMAN, IN ORDER TO SHOW YOUR HUSBAND THAT YOU LOVE HIM AND THAT YOU DESIRE FOR HIM TO BE THE BEST INDIVIDUAL HE CAN BE.
SHOW SOME RESPECT
- EVERYTHING A MAN IS AND DOES IS TIED TO RESPECT.
- HE NEEDS YOU TO RESPECT HIM, BECAUSE HIS SELF WORTH DEPENDS ON IT
- TO DISRESPECT A MAN GOES RIGHT TO THE HEART OF HIS BEING AND DRASTICALLY CHANGES HIM.
- DISRESPECT WOULD WOUND ANY MAN AND TAKES AWAY ALL HIS ENERGY AND WILLINGNESS TO DO THINGS RIGHT!
- WE ARE NOT TALKING ABOUT LAZY, SELFISH AND SELF-CENTERED HUSBANDS.
- WE ARE TALKING ABOUT HUSBANDS WHO ARE DOING THEIR BEST TO PROVIDE FOR AND PROTECT THEIR WIVES AND FAMILY.
- ALTHOUGH SUCH HUSBANDS MAY MAKE SERIOUS MISTAKES ALONG THE WAY, YOU MUST RESPECT HIS THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS AND OPINIONS EVEN IF HE IS NOT YET BORN AGAIN.
- WHEN YOU RESPECT YOUR HUSBANDS GOD GIVEN POSITION AS THE LEADER AND PROVIDER FOR YOUR FAMILY YOU ARE RESPECTING GOD`S WORD OF AUTHORITY
HOW TO SHOW YOUR MAN HIS ONE RESPECT
- BE HIS BEST FRIEND IN TIME OF NEED.
- IF A MAN IS FEELING THOSE PRESSURES OR HIS GOD – GIVEN BURDENS OR CONCERNS ABOUT PROVISION FOR HIS FAMILY NEEDS IT IS USUALLY DIFFICULT FOR HIM TO TALK ABOUT IT.
- SOMETIMES THE ISSUES ARE “MANLY AND PRIVATE”, AT LEAST SO HE FEELS.
- AT THAT TIME BE SENSITIVE TO HIS NEEDS
- JUST PRAY FOR HIM AND DON`T FORCE HIM TO OPEN UP
- WHEN HE SEES YOUR TENDERNESS AND CONCERN HE WILL OPEN UP.
- WHEN YOU PRAY FOR HIM, GOD WILL GIVE YOU A WORD IN SEASON TO SPEAK FOR COMFORT. IS. 50 :4
- HELP HIM TO SEE OR TO REMEMBER THAT GOD HAS ALWAYS BROUGHT YOU BOTH THROUGH DIFFICULT TIMES AND THAT HE WON`T ABANDON YOU NOW.
- SHOW HIM THROUGH THE WORD THAT HE IS GOD`S SON AND GOD`S MINISTER TO HIS HOUSEHOLD AND THAT GOD IS WITH HIM.
- THEN PRAY TOGETHER TO RECEIVE THE WISDOM YOU NEED FOR THE SITUATION AT HAND.
- REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE HIS CONFIDANT.
- BY CONFIDING IN YOU, HE`S PUTTING HIS HEART INTO YOUR HANDS.
- YOU MUST TREAT THAT HEART WITH HONOR AND HOLD IT CAREFULLY.
- HE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT YOU WILL NOT BETRAY HIM BY TELLING HIS BUSINESS TO AN OUTSIDER SUCH AS A FRIEND OR ANOTHER FAMILY MEMBER.
- IN ADDITION IF YOUR HUSBAND TELLS YOU OR INDICATE THAT HE NEEDS SOMETHING FROM YOU, RESPECT WHAT HE TELLS YOU WHETHER YOU AGREE WITH HIM OR NOT.
- MAKE THE ADJUSTMENTS AND DO YOUR BEST TO MEET THAT NEED.
- YOU MUST RESIST THE SPIRIT OF SELFISHNESS AT THAT TIME!
- TELL HIM HE`S IMPORTANT
- A MAN NEEDS TO KNOW THAT HE MATTERS AND THAT HE IS VERY IMPORTANT TO HIS FAMILY.
- IF HE THINKS HE IS WORTHLESS, HE WILL WALK AROUND FEELINGS INSECURE, INFERIOR AND INADEQUATE.
- YOU CAN CHANGE ALL THAT BY TELLING HIM HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM AND NEED HIM IN YOUR LIFE.
- HOW IMPORTANT HE IS TO YOU AND THE ENTIRE FAMILY
- MEN LOVE TO FEEL RELEVANT AND IMPORTANT.
- HAVE A MEEK AND QUIET SPIRIT
- 1PET. 3 :4 STATES THAT A MEEK AND QUIET SPIRIT IS OF VALUE TO GOD.
- THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU SIT IN A CORNER AND NEVER SPEAK; IT SIMPLY MEANS THAT YOU SHOULD REMAIN TEACHABLE.
- YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW AND WHEN TO ALLOW YOUR HUSBAND TO TAKE THE LEAD.
- HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN A PLACE HERE THE HUSBAND WAS ASKED A QUESTION BUT THE WIFE ANSWERED IT FOR HIM?
- THAT IS EMBARRASSING AND DEGRADING TO THE MAN AND HARMFUL TO ANY MARRIAGE.
- AS MINISTERS OF GOD, WHEN THAT HAPPENS IN OUR PRESENCE, WE MUST WAIT TILL THE WOMAN FINISHES HER ANSWERS
- THEN LOOK THE MAN IN THE FACE AND ASK THE QUESTION AGAIN.
- IF A WOMAN GIVES ALL THE ANSWERS AND MAKES ALL THE DECISIONS, THEN HER HUSBAND CANNOT BUILD HIS CONFIDENCE AND LEADERSHIP IN THE LORD.
- YOU MAY KNOW MORE THAN YOUR HUSBAND.
- YOU MAY HAVE BEEN CHRISTIAN LONGER THAN HIM, IN THAT CASE YOUR SHOW YOUR SPIRITUAL MATURITY AND BUILD YOUR HUSBAND UP.
- GIVE HIM THE TIME TO SPEAK AND LET HIM LEAD.
- REMEMBER, JEZEBEL IS NOT YOUR RELATIVE!
- SARAH IS YOUR RELATIVE. 1 PETER 3: 1-6
- PRAISE HIM PUBLICLY
- NOTHING IS MORE DEGRADING THAN SEEING A WOMAN DISRESPECT HER HUSBAND IN PUBLIC, IN THE PRESENCE OF OTHERS.
- IT IS ABSOLUTE WRONG AND IT SIMPLY SHOWS THAT THE WOMAN IS POSSESSED OF HELL!
- NEVER CRITICIZE YOUR HUSBAND TO OTHERS.
- NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO DO IT IN YOUR PRESENCE
- RATHER STAND UP FOR HIM AND LET HIM SEE YOU DO IT.
- ALWAYS BRAG ABOUT ALL THE WONDERFUL THINGS HE`S DONE FOR YOU AND WHAT HE MEANS TO YOU.
- UNDERSTAND HIM
- IN AFRICA, GIRLS ARE USUALLY TAUGHT TO SHY AWAY FROM SEX AND NOT TO SHOW EVEN OUR HUSBANDS THAT WE ARE INTERESTED IN PLAYING WITH THEM.
- WE DON`T HUG OUR HUSBANDS, WE DON`T LIKE TO INITIATE KISSES, WE DON`T TELL THEM THAT WE LOVE THEM OR THAT THEY LOOK HANDSOME.
- WE JUST STAND AT THE DOOR AND ASK FOR MONEY AND MAKE QUARRELSOME REMARKS.
- SISTERS, YOUR HUSBANDS NEED TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE JUST AS INTERESTED IN SEXUAL ACTIVITY WITH THEM AS THEY ARE WITH YOU.
- YOU MUST HUG HIM, THROW YOUR ARMS AROUND HIM, SIT CLOSE TO HIM AND WATCH SOCCER WITH HIM., EVEN IF THAT IS SOMETHING YOU HATE VERY MUCH.
- MAKE HIM FEEL THAT HE IS THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO YOU.
- STOP BEING SHY AND FEELING REJECTED WITH HIS COMPLAINTS OF “I`M TIRED, DON`T PLAY WITH ME,” I HAVE OTHER THINGS TO WORRY ABOUT”
- KEEP PLAYING WITH YOUR HUSBAND AND TEASING HIM.
- IF YOUR HUSBAND IS A TYPICAL AFRICAN, HE MAY BE STIFF AT FIRST, BUT TELL HIM TO LOOSEN UP AND THAT THIS IS THE WILL OF GOD FOR THE MOMENT.
- THE TRUTH IS, MANY AFRICANS, ARE DEALING WITH REJECTION, BECAUSE OF TRADITIONAL UPBRINGING.
- AS YOU CONTINUE TO SHOW HIM LOVE, THOSE WALLS OF REFUSING AFFECTION WILL COME CRASHING DOWN!
- BE THE TOOL OF LOVE AND AFFECTION IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD
- GIVE EVERYONE IN THE HOME WHAT THEY LOVE TO EAT.
- YOUR HUSBAND AND YOUR CHILDREN NEED YOU TO BREAKDOWN ALL THE COMMUNICATION BARRIERS IN THE HOME.
- PRAYER IS GOOD, BUT AFTER PRAYERS, GOD WILL GIVE YOU WISDOM FOR VICTORY.
- YOUR MAN NEEDS YOU TO UNDERSTAND WHY HE DOES WHAT HE DOES AND FEELS THE WAY HE FEELS ABOUT THINGS
- LISTEN TO HIM WHEN HE TALKS AND WATCH WHAT HE DOES.
- TAKE NOTICE OF THE WAYS IN WHICH HE TRIES TO SHOW YOU LOVE.
- TRY TO GAIN INSIGHT INTO HIS WORLD AND WHAT HE DEALS WITH ON A DAILY BASIS.
- WHAT IS HE GOING THROUGH AT WORK?
- WHAT DOES HE DO AND WHAT ARE THE CHALLENGES?
- ONCE YOU UNDERSTAND THOSE THINGS, YOU`VE GAINED INSIGHT INTO HIS WORLD AND HE WILL WANT YOU TO BE PART OF IT.
- TAKE A TIME TO SEE WHAT`S HAPPENING IN YOUR HUSBAND`S LIFE
- ONLY THEN CAN YOU DEVELOP THE SENSITIVITY THAT COMES WITH UNDERSTANDING.
- PASTORS WIVES NOTE THAT MINISTRY WORD INVOLVES A LOT, COUNSELING BUSINESS CONTRACT, NEGOTIATION, BUYING OFFICE & CHURCH SUPPLIES, BANKING ETC.
- CARE FOR HIS CASTLE
- A MANS HOME IS HIS CASTLE.
- EVERYMAN NEEDS A CLEAN ORDERLY HOME
- A MESSY HOUSE CAN MAKE A TIRED PERSON EVEN FEEL MORE TIRED.
- IF YOU BOTH WORK, GET SOMEBODY TO HELP TIDY UP YOUR HOUSE.
- TAKE PRIDE IN HOW CLEAN AND ORDERLY YOUR HOME IS
- MAKE YOUR HOME AN ATTRACTIVE, INVITING PLACE THAT YOUR HUSBAND CAN`T WANT TO RETURN TO
- LET THERE BE LAUGHTER IN YOUR HOME.
- TALK ABOUT FUNNY THINGS THAT HAVE HAPPENED
- YOU WILL FEEL MUCH BETTER WHEN YOU LAUGH EVERYDAY
- YOU AND YOUR MAN NEED THAT HUMOUR TO ADD BALANCE TO YOUR LIVES
- AS A WOMAN, YOU MUST STAY AS ATTRACTIVE AS POSSIBLE EVEN AT 50.
- A MAN NEEDS HIS WIFE TO LOOK GOOD
- TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF NO MATTER YOUR AGE.
- WE ARE NOT TALKING ABOUT EXCESSES
- IF YOU NEED TO SHED A FEW POUNDS OR COVER YOUR GRAY HAIR THEN DO SOMETHING
- AFTER GOD YOUR FIRST PRIORITY IS YOUR HUSBAND, NOT YOUR JOB OR CHILDREN OR EVEN CHURCH COMMITMENTS.
- FIND OUT WHAT HE NEEDS AND DO THEM TO THE GLORY OF GOD
- FINALLY, TRUST HIM
- IF A WOMAN TELLS HER HUSBAND THAT SHE TRUSTS HIM THERE IS NOTHING HE WON`T DO FOR HER.
- TRUST IS DIRECTLY TIED TO A MAN’S ABILITY TO ACHIEVE.
- IT IS THE FUEL THAT GETS HIM TO THE SAME OLD JOB EVERYDAY, TRYING TO PUT HIS FAMILY FIRST.
- MAY BE HE`S DONE SOMETHING IN THE PAST THAT DAMAGED OR DESTROYED THAT TRUST.
- IF HE`S MAKING AN EFFORT TO REGAIN YOUR TRUST THEN HONOR HIS EFFORT.
- WHILE IT IS TRUE THAT TRUST CANNOT BE REBUILT OVERNIGHT, YOU MUST STRIVE TO PUT IT BACK BRICK BY BRICK.
- LET HIM KNOW THAT HE IS FORGIVEN
- LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU ARE WILLING TO START AFRESH.
- A WOMAN, WHO TRUSTS GOD, WILL ULTIMATELY TRUST HER HUSBAND AND BELIEVE AND KNOW THAT HE WILL NEVER BETRAY HER.
- TRUST IS VITAL TO YOUR HUSBAND
- A MAN MUST KNOW THAT HIS WOMAN BELIEVES IN HIM NO MATTER WHAT AND SHE IS WILLING TO FOLLOW HIM AS HE FOLLOWS THE LORD.
- DO YOU TRUST GOD? THEN APPLY THAT SAME TRUST WITH YOUR HUSBAND AND LET HIM KNOW IT!
- REMEMBER SISTERS, THE DEGREE OF HARMONY IN YOUR MARRIAGE WILL BE IN DIRECT PROPORTION TO HOW YOUR HUSBANDS NEEDS ARE MET.
- YOU CAN SOLVE 95% OF THE CONFLICTS IN YOUR HOME BY IDENTIFYING YOUR HUSBANDS NEEDS AND FULFILLING THEM.