HE THAT FINDETH A WIFE

• GEN. 2:18 GOD SAYS HERE,” I’M GOING TO MAKE ADAM, A HELPER WHO WILL BE COMPATIBLE I.E. ABLE TO LIVE TOGETHER WITH HIM, SUITABLE TO HIM.
• “I’M GOING TO MAKE ANOTHER HUMAN BEING WHO WILL COMPLEMENT HIM AND WHO WILL BE COMPLEMENTED BY HIM”
• “I’M GOING TO MAKE ANOTHER UNIQUE, WHOLE AND SEPARATE PERSON AND BRING THE TWO TOGETHER FOR MUTUAL COMPANIONSHIP ON THE SAME LEVEL”.
• YOU DON’T WANT A PERSON WHO CANNOT CONTRIBUTE POSITIVELY TO THE RELATIONSHIP FOR REASON OF INSECURITY, INFERIORITY, DOUBTS OR FEELINGS OF WORTHLESSNESS
• MARRY SOMEONE WHO HAS WORKED ON HIMSELF AND HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD, WHO CAN ESTABLISH A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS.
• DON’T EVER MARRY TO AVOID LONELINESS
• MANY PEOPLE ARE MARRIED BUT CONTINUE TO BATTLE LONELINESS.
• WHY? BECAUSE THEY THOUGHT MARRIAGE WAS WHAT THEY NEEDED TO FEEL COMPLETE & WHOLE
• UNFORTUNATELY, MARRIAGE IS NEVER THE CURE FOR LONELINES
• THE BEST RELATIONSHIP IN MARRIAGE STEMS FROM SOLID FRIENDSHIP WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT.
• IF YOU FEEL ALONE AS BELIEVER, YOUR PRAYER LIFE NEEDS TO CHANGE.
• YOU NEED TO LEARN HOW TO DEVELOP A FRIENDSHIP RELATIONSHIP WITH THE LORD. JAMES 2: 24
• YOU DON’T NEED TO RUSH INTO MARRIAGE WITH ANYONE, BE A FRIEND OF GOD FIRST.
• FRIENDSHIP WITH GOD WILL SURELY GIVE YOU PEACE, CONFIDENCE AND ASSURANCE. IS.26:4-5, IS 32:17
• CONTRARY TO POPULAR OPINION, IT TOOK A LITTLE TIME FOR ADAM AND EVE TO GET TOGETHER ONCE EVE WAS CREATED.
• GEN. 2: 22 SAYS EVE WAS PRESENTED TO ADAM; GOD HAD TO BRING HER OR INTRODUCE HER TO HIM.
• ADAM LIKED WHAT HE SAW AND ACCEPTED HER, FIRST AS A COMPANION AND FRIEND AND LATER A WIFE OR A LIFE PARTNER.
• WE OFTEN HEAR THE PHRASE “GOD CHOSE THAT PERSON FOR ME”.
• BUT THIS IS ABSOLUTELY FALSE, FOR THIS WILL VIOLATE THE PRINCIPLE OF GOD, WHICH IS FREEDOM OF CHOICE.
• BECAUSE THE BIBLE SAYS HE THAT FINDETH A WIFE FINDETH A GOOD THING AND OBTAINETH FAVOUR WITH THE LORD . : PROVERBS 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
• IF HE ONLY MADE JUST ONE PERSON FOR YOU, THEN HE WOULD BE TAKING AWAY YOUR FREEWILL AS WELL ASSUMING RESPONSIBILITY FOR THAT RELATIONSHIP.
• AND GOD WILL NEVER DO THAT.
• THE RELATIONSHIP YOU ESTABLISH WITH ANOTHER PERSON AND HOW YOU ESTABLISH OR MAINTAIN IT IS COMPLETELY YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.
• YOU ARE TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE FAILURES AND THE SUCCESSES THAT MAY OCCUR IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS.
• COMMON SENSE, MIXED WITH SPIRITUAL MATURITY MUST BE APPLIED WHEN CHOOSING YOUR PARTNER.
• FORGET THE IDEA THAT THERE IS ONLY ONE PERSON IN THE WHOLE WORLD FOR YOU.
• THERE ARE MANY “RIGHT” PEOPLE, AND GOD WILL PRESENT YOU WITH MANY.
• GOD HAS PURPOSELY LIMITED HIMSELF TO EXPRESSING HIS WISHES AND HIS WILL FOR YOU. DEUT. 30:19
• FOR EXAMPLE IT IS NOT GOD’S WILL THAT ANY MAN SHOULD PERISH BUT HE HAS LEFT THE CHOICE TO RECEIVE CHRIST OR NOT TO EVERY INDIVIDUAL.
• YOU MAY SAY THAT THIS PERSON MEETS ALL MY QUALIFICATIONS BUT I HAVEN’T HEARD FROM GOD YET.
• ADAM CHOSE EVE AS HIS WIFE, JUST AS YOU MUST CHOOSE SOME ONE.
• IF HE HAD NOT CHOSEN EVE, GOD WOULD HAVE MADE SOMEONE ELSE.
• GOD ILLUSTRATED OUR POWER TO CHOOSE BY SIMPLY PRESENTING EVE TO HER FUTURE MATE.
• MEN WHEN GOD PRESENTS SOMEONE TO YOU, ACT ON IT.
• WOMEN LIKE UNIQUENESS, HONESTY, INTEGRITY AND STRAIGHTFORWARDNESS.
• DON’T SIT BACK AND TRY TO THINK OF WHAT TO SAY, BE SIMPLE.
• SAY SOMETHING LIKE “HELLO MY NAME IS SO AND SO … COULD I CALL YOU TO TALK?”.
• IF SHE SAYS NO, YOU HAVE TO KNOW HOW TO BE A MAN AND WALK AWAY FROM THAT REJECTION AND REMAIN WHOLE.
• DON’T FEEL BAD ABOUT YOURSELF OR GET UPSET AND START TALKING AROUND ABOUT HER.
• YOU MUST LEARN TO PURSUE WHAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN.
• SOMETIMES A WOMAN SAYS NO, FIRST TO KNOW IF YOU ARE REALLY INTERESTED.
• SHE MIGHT BE IMPRESSED IF YOU TRY AGAIN ANOTHER WAY.
• MANY MEN ARE PARALYZED BY FEAR AND INSECURITY SO LADIES DON’T BE AFRAID TO LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE INTERESTED IN THEM, THAT IF OF COURSE THEY ARE SINGLE.
• NO ONE LIKES TO BE REJECTED; BY GIVING A SMILE OR SAYING HELLO YOU OPEN THE DOOR FOR HIM TO MAKE HIS MOVE.
• BROTHERS ONCE YOU GET THE SIGNALS, YOU MUST MAKE THE NEXT MOVE
• DON’T EXPECT THE SISTER TO BE ALL OVER YOU AFTER THE INITIAL FIRST MOVE.
• SISTERS EVEN IF THE BROTHER IS TOO SLOW TO MAKE THE NEXT MOVE YOU MUST NOW ACT AS IF HE DOES NOT EXIST.
• YOU MUST NOT SAY ANYTHING ANYMORE.
• IT IS REALLY WISE TO MAKE YOUR FIRST DATE WITH A GROUP OF FRIENDS.
• YOU CAN SEE A LOT BY DOING THAT.
• IF YOU ARE ALONE WITH THE PERSON, HE OR SHE WILL ACT DIFFERENTLY THAN WHEN OTHERS ARE AROUND.
• IF YOU DON’T LIKE WHAT YOU SEE OR HEAR IN THE PRESENCE OF FRIENDS YOU CAN SAFELY WALK AWAY BEFORE ANYBODY GETS HURT.

GUIDELINES FOR GOD’S PRESENTATION

• IT IS IMPORTANT TO NOTE THE GUIDELINES FOR GOD’S PRESENTATIONS.
• THE BIBLE CLEARLY STATES THAT CHRISTIANS ARE NOT TO BE EQUALLY YOKED TOGETHER WITH UNBELIEVERS.
• 2COR. 6: 14-18 AUTOMATICALLY DISQUALIFIES A LOT OF PEOPLE.
• YOU WILL SAVE YOURSELF A LOT OF FUTURE HEADACHE BY STICKING TO GOD’S WORD.
• GOD HAS YOUR BEST INTEREST IN HEART AND HE WILL NOT PRESENT A DRUNKARD OR AN UNBELIEVER TO YOU.
• GOD WILL NEVER WORK CONTRARY TO HIS OWN WORD.
• DON’T MARRY PEOPLE OUTSIDE GOD’S PRINCIPLES BECAUSE THEY LOOK GOOD OR ARE KIND ETC.
• IF YOU HAVE BEEN BORN AGAIN FOR FIVE YEARS AND THE PERSON YOU PLAN TO MARRY JUST GOT SAVED YOU MAY STILL UNEQUALLY YOKED.
• EXAMINE THE SPIRITUAL GROWTH AND MATURITY OF THE PERSON FIRST
• THERE MAY BE LOTS AND LOTS OF THINGS ABOUT GOD AND WALKING IN HIS WORD, WHICH HE OR SHE DOES NOT YET KNOW.
• IT IS IMPORTANT TO CHECK YOUR PERSONAL QUALIFICATION GUIDELINES LIST AFTER GOD HAS PRESENTED SOMEBODY TO YOU.
• WELL, THE PRESENTATION IS ALL THAT GOD WILL DO.
• YOU NEED TO CHECK FOR THE GUIDELINES ACCORDING TO GOD’S WORD, GEN 24;1-25
• GOD WILL GIVE YOUR HEART’S DESIRE IF YOU DELIGHT IN HIM, SO DON’T SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOUR HEART’S DESIRE. GOD WANTS YOU TO BE HAPPY!!!